“We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.”
What this quote means
Epictetus emphasizes the importance of listening in communication. With two ears and one mouth, nature indicates the ideal proportion: listen twice as much as you speak. By listening actively, we understand others better, learn more, and build deeper relationships. Talking too often may reveal a need to dominate or an insecurity. Listening is a form of respect and humility, essential for growth and for avoiding misunderstandings.
How to apply it daily
In your next conversation, make a conscious effort to listen without interrupting. Ask a follow-up question to show your interest.
Reading guide
Which book should you read to discover Epictetus?
Our starting point
A short, practical first approach
Enchiridion
In a few pages, it sets out the central distinction between what depends on us and what does not.
- Level
- Accessible
- Reading time
- 1–2 hours
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