“It is not things themselves that disturb men, but their judgments about these things.”
What this quote means
This quote from Epictetus reminds us that our suffering does not come from events themselves, but from the way we interpret them. Two people can experience the same situation, one being upset, the other remaining serene, depending on their expectations and beliefs. It invites us to become aware of our automatic judgments and to examine them, for that is where our power of transformation lies. By changing our perspective, we can calm our mind and find inner peace, even in the face of adversity.
How to apply it daily
When you feel disturbed, write down the factual situation, then identify the judgment you are adding to it. Ask yourself if it is true and helpful, and reframe it more objectively.
Reading guide
Which book should you read to discover Epictetus?
Our starting point
A short, practical first approach
Enchiridion
In a few pages, it sets out the central distinction between what depends on us and what does not.
- Level
- Accessible
- Reading time
- 1–2 hours
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