“It is not death or pain that is to be dreaded, but the fear of pain or death.”
What this quote means
Epictetus reminds us that our fear of death and pain is often more paralyzing than these events themselves. By anticipating and imagining the worst, we suffer twice. This fear prevents us from living fully and facing challenges with courage. In reality, it is our interpretation and apprehension that torment us, not the facts themselves. Accepting the inevitable and focusing on what we can control – our thoughts and actions – frees us from this unnecessary anguish.
How to apply it daily
Identify a fear that holds you back. Ask yourself, “What is truly in my power?” Then, act despite the fear, focusing on the present moment.
Reading guide
Which book should you read to discover Epictetus?
Our starting point
A short, practical first approach
Enchiridion
In a few pages, it sets out the central distinction between what depends on us and what does not.
- Level
- Accessible
- Reading time
- 1–2 hours
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